What I’ve Learned Working for Myself (other than the fact that I need 36 hours in every day)…
March 24, 2011 § 1 Comment
I had to post this tonight because I think there are many people out there who, like me, need a reminder every now and then.
I was checking my twitter feed earlier tonight (yes, that is my goofy twitter avatar to the left) and came across a link to an amazing article on a great website, IttyBiz.com. It was exactly what I need right now, for a multitude of reasons, and it really got me thinking.
I decided to post it to an online community I’m part of, full of women (mostly women I should say) exactly like me – self-employed, designers, moms, etc. And within an hour or so there were so many responses, that all basically said the same thing…”I needed this”.
Anyone who knows me will tell you – I don’t read self-help books, I’m not Ms. Positivity, and I’m not much of a motivational speaker either. But, I felt the need to post something personal, to reach out to these other women and tell them that they were right – they did need it, we *all* need it sometimes. That pep talk that you have to give yourself, because sometimes everyone else is too blind to see what’s going on with you, that internal struggle.
So I posted the following, and I wanted to share it, because I think it’s important:
Every now and then, I need to give myself the pep talk:
“I am brave, I am strong, I am talented. I am living my passion. I am a good mother because I am teaching my children the value of hard work, sacrifice and being the person you really are. What I sometimes must take from them in time, I give to them in teaching and leading by example. Every mistake is a lesson learned, criticism is a gift, there is joy to be found in small victories. I CAN do whatever I set my mind to, because I am willing to do whatever it takes. I am successful, because I am happy and fulfilled. The future is limitless.”
I am not a self-help book, positivity kind of person (are you shocked? LOL), but I do believe that one of the most important things that we can have as designers, as business owners (especially in our industry) is confidence and belief in ourselves. And sometimes, you need to sit down and remind yourself that what is important is all that you ARE, not all that you AREN’T.
It is so easy to fall into that pit of thinking every one out there is “better” or “more talented” than you, that you’ll never be as “good”, as “connected” as “famous” as they are, but “they” were all where we are now once.
It is so easy to let small things get you down: horrible clients, people copying your work, what the competition is doing etc. But the reality is, they are just small things. Those clients shall pass, the copycats have to deal with karma eventually, and the competition is not your enemy, they are your friends. Keep your eye on the prize.
I believe every word of it to be true – I have to. It allows me to do what I love, what I’m passionate about, what I’ve built my future on.